Oh, threesomes! The dream of all that is a fan of our beloved website. Yup, in this article, you learn a lot. Not just how to have them, but also the icky side on a threeway marathon. May it be girl-girl-boy or boy-boy-girl… And yes, this is one is for both genders. So get ready…
Now If you’ve made the decision to invite a third person into your sexual relations with your steady partner, you might think the hardest part is over. However, you must now figure out how to make sure everyone laughs, orgasms, and thoroughly enjoys themselves. This — figuring out how to have a sexy, romantic, drama-free threesome — is actually the hardest part once you’ve decided your relationship can handle a ménage à trois.
If you’re part of a couple, you should choose your third partner wisely (it’s more complicated than just avoiding any ex-lovers or best friends). Sex and relationship expert Emily Morse recommends finding a single person in your larger friend group who you’re not too close with but who would be open to a threesome. With a stranger, there’s no long-term attachment, but you do run a bigger risk of not being attracted to the person, and there are the obvious potential safety hazards, like STDs.
You’ll probably want to test the waters first by referencing a threesome scene from a movie or bringing up a celebrity couple who’s public with their bisexuality or open relationship status. Then, you can casually ask the person if they’ve ever had a threesome or would ever want to participate.
Now, if you got all the participants, expect the downsides…
1. It’s nothing like it is in porn
There are body parts making funny farty noises, slapping against each other, sweating profusely, and a lot of re-adjusting position. And of course, due to the structure of our faces, a threeway kiss is impossible. In fact, it’s just awkward.
The three-way itself should be fairly organic. Move, touch, and maneuver however you like. Take the lead or allow yourself to be led—whatever feels natural. So you need to…
2. Lay some ground rules
In a threesome, you’re pushing your boundaries and, especially if it’s new to you, stepping out of your comfort zone. Just as it would be the case with anyone you haven’t had sex with before, it’s important to be clear about what you want and don’t want upfront. Just because it’s a threesome, doesn’t mean that rules get thrown out the window.
3. Even with rules, it can still get confusing
Should I put my legs up, or roll over into doggy? Is it better if I give you a hand, or use my mouth? With body parts shifting wildly, you’ll have to think on your feet and embrace the moment to get the most out of your three-way.
4. Stay open-minded
Combat awkwardness with a dedication to break outside your comfort zone. Now’s your chance! Never given another guy a reach-around? Go for it! Don’t break any hard limits, but don’t be afraid to try something new either.
5. Don’t be afraid to laugh
Laughing is an easy way to diffuse any discomfort and let go when your fantasy doesn’t go perfectly. Don’t let that fanny fart break your momentum or confidence.
6. Try not to pair off
Even if you’re enjoying one person more than the other, it can be a serious buzzkill to leave someone out of the fun. Make sure everyone is included – even if you’re simply rubbing their chest while your mouth and privates are busy doing other things.
7. It’s not about loving, pleasing, and adoring you
Romance and affection are only in the movies. This is a more ‘all-round’ and intense experience – so to speak – with stuff coming at you from all angles. Not for the faint-hearted.
8. But multitasking is really hard
You know how 69 is a total pain in the ass because you’re pleasuring someone while trying to enjoy pleasure? Yeah… so the same thing goes when you’re in a threesome. It’s hard to fully enjoy something when you’re concentrating on working on someone else’s bits and pieces.
9. By the end, you’ll realize that one person is enough
Even if you love your threesome, there’s a pretty good chance that you’ll realize that they’re only best in certain situations or on special occasions. As I said, they’re totally great in theory, but once you’ve had one, you’ll realize that they just don’t work so well in real life. Three tends to be a crowd, and even the most seasoned threesome person will probably agree.
Threesome tip:
‘Threesomes’ tend to last longer than traditional two-way nookie, so you may change things up quite a bit. Take the lead with your hands, guiding your partners into positions you want to try. Or pay attention to any subtle changes in your partners’ body language, breathing patterns, and sexual cues. Then, use motions to guide them however you like, not words. Oh, and you should plan to have more condoms on-hand than usual. “If the guy is penetrating both women, he’s going to have to take the condom off each time he goes back and forth between each partner,” says Morse, otherwise he’s exposing the women to each other’s body fluids which could contain bacteria, infections, and viruses. Lube, sex toys, and toy cleansing wipes should also be on the nightstand for added sensation and wetness. And toys should be wiped down in between partners to keep from spreading germs.
So there you have it. Enjoy your threesome experience! Just don’t get your hopes up as it is not what it seems it is.