Folks, it’s not a secret that there is one thingamajig out there that can enhance your sexual experience. Yup, it may be a little icky to those who, in their current mindset, despise anal but once you try this, we’re telling you… There is no going back. Heck, you don’t even need to do anal.
These little things will work magic on your bed (and table or sink) adventures. And in this article, we are going to tell why you need to try one.
First, what is it?
A sex toy that anyone with an anus (duh) can enjoy, regardless of gender or orientation. They have a teardrop shape and a wider base to keep them from being sucked in too far. Butt plugs also have a broad base to prevent the toy from penetrating too deeply.
A butt plug, unlike many other sexual toys such as dildos, is designed to stay in place during sexual play.
Butt plugs for beginners (or anyone) provide a wide range of sensations. Butt plugs can stimulate the prostate; if you have a vagina, a butt plug can create extremely pleasurable pressure on the back vaginal wall (in addition, nerve endings also surround the anus.) To prepare for sex, a butt plug can be used to stimulate the anus. This is due to the tip of the plug being close to the female g-spot and the prostate being close to the male g-spot.
Yup, butt plugs are fantastic toys that can help you explore new sexual territory safely.
Will we enjoy it?
People use butt plugs to stimulate the gland, potentially resulting in a prostate orgasm. Even if none occur, most people report that it feels good. Butt plugs that are specially shaped to reach the prostate are available. You can wear them in public, use them for submissive play, and engage in some DP action by wearing one during vaginal penetration.
Wearing one during penetrative vaginal sex can simulate double penetration (being penetrated in both the anus and the vagina). So yes, my dear. A butt plug is also a great way to get double penetration: insert one after applying lube and wear it with a penis or dildo during vaginal sex. You can also stimulate your clit with your fingers or a vibrator at the same time. Many people enjoy receiving oral while wearing a butt plugged in. Butt plugs are also great masturbation companions even if you don’t have a partner. Solo sex is a wonderful way to experiment with anal play. The bottom line is that anyone can enjoy anal pleasure through butt plugs.
As for backdoor adventures? Butt plugs are used by people who enjoy anal sex to warm up the anus before sex. Butt plugs can be used to stretch your anus and prepare you for bigger things, such as larger toys, a penis, or gaping. It only takes starting small and gradually working your way up. When they are alone (we’re talking about your partners), they may masturbate with a butt plug to enhance the experience.
The use of plugs for anal sex warm-up is far from the only one. Some members of the BDSM community employ them in dominance and submission play. A more experienced user may wear a butt plug for several hours or in public. Butt plugs can, indeed, be used in dominance and submission games.
And, yes, there are orgasms from behind… Anal orgasms are real, and anyone with an anus can have one, with the help of a butt plug. All of the nerves just inside your backdoor are a part of what makes butt play so enjoyable. Women and people assigned female at birth can use one to indirectly stimulate the A-spot or G-spot, resulting in female ejaculation.
So the question again… Will we enjoy it? Yup, as long as you take the proper precautions and this includes:
A lot of lube. When it comes to butt play, lube is a must. Because the anus does not self-lubricate like the vagina, plenty of lubrication is always recommended. The anus and rectum are delicate structures. Lubrication helps to prevent tears and soreness and makes anal play more enjoyable. Inadequate nutrition can cause irritation and tears. We’re talking about tears in the delicate skin of your anus, as well as tears that run down your cheeks when you cry.
Again (and we cannot stress this enough), the rectum does not self-lubricate, so you must assist it. If you’re using a butt plug with more than one partner, practice safer sex by putting a condom on it and using a non-oil-based lube before each use. Oil-based lubes, such as coconut oil, break down latex, whereas water- and silicone-based lubes do not.
Proper handling. Not only with your butt plugs but also with any other sex toys. Yes, any sex toy should be washed and disinfected before and after use. The reason for this is, well, poop. Even the cleanest of bums contains microscopic fecal matter, which can cause infections. Sharing sex toys can also spread sexually transmitted infections. Proper sex toy care and handling can reduce your risk.
And of course, your health. If you have hemorrhoids, anal fissures, or a prostate condition, you should avoid using butt toys. First, consult with a doctor or other healthcare provider.
How to Play with a Butt Plug
Start slow and never, ever, ever overlook foreplay. Rather than going straight for the ass, try a few other sexual activities you enjoy, such as oral sex, to get your body turned on and receptive to a new type of stimulation. Remember that relaxation is the key to anal play.
Start with something smaller than the butt plug. Warming up with a finger is usually a good idea. Wear a disposable latex or nitrile glove if you don’t want bacteria from the anus to spread to other parts of your body or if you want to keep your hands clean. Apply lube to your finger and gently rub the rim of the anus before inserting your finger. Insert the butt plug after you’ve comfortably inserted a finger or two.
Experiment with different butt plug insertion positions to see which one works best for you. Each person is unique, and depending on their anatomy, they will prefer different positions.
Some people use numbing creams to alleviate pain during anal play. This, however, will prevent you from feeling pleasure and from when your body is telling you to stop. Remember: when using a butt plug, avoid using numbing cream for your safety.
Gently pull out a butt plug while taking slow and steady deep breaths, or have your partner hold the base and slide it out for you. Orgasms during anal play can make removal easier because they relax the pelvic floor.
The Misconceptions
Using butt plugs doesn’t mean you’re agreeing to anal sex. Consenting to one sex act does not imply an open invitation to another. Using butt plugs does not open up your buttocks to anal sex unless that is what you want.
It shouldn’t hurt. A little discomfort as your buttocks adjust to being penetrated is normal, but it should not be excruciating. Just remember to take things super slow and use lots of lube.
You aren’t going to poop. We promise you won’t, but it might feel that way. Because you’re stimulating many of the same nerves, feeling the urge to poop is natural. Use the restroom before you begin to clear your mind — and your bowels.
It can’t get stuck or lost — but other things could. Butt plugs are cleverly designed to stay in place, but other items are not. Use nothing that isn’t specifically designed for your butt. Foreign objects can seriously harm your colon.
Advice and a fair warning…
Wash your hands. Always. As even if your anus is clean, it can still harbor bacteria that cause vaginal infections. After touching the anus, wash your hands before touching other genitals. To avoid UTIs and yeast infections, wash with warm water and soap.
Most silicone toys can be washed in the dishwasher as long as they do not contain a motor. Bacteria are killed by this method. Toys made of glass, silicone, or stainless steel can also be disinfected by boiling them. Before sharing a toy with a partner, make sure to do this. Even if you only use the toy on yourself, disinfect it on a regular basis to keep it clean and healthy.
As for what to get as a beginner and after… Well, that would be in another article as we will be reviewing several. So stay tuned.
Sources: Healthline and WebMD