Sex is not meant to be a silent activity. Imagine how uncomfortable it would feel to have sex in total silence —no aural feedback from your partner.
Talking to your partner during sex is a proven way to enjoy sex better. It can be a form of feedback for your partner to know what feels good and what doesn’t. It also increases intimacy between partners.
A study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that people who communicate in bed are more satisfied sexually and in their relationships.
So, while grabbing and holding on to your partner’s hair is cue enough, actually saying something might be better. Non-verbal cues can sometimes be hard to read, especially when you are in the moment. It might even be dangerous when getting consent for certain sexual acts.
Many people avoid communicating during sex because they fear it might ruin the mood. However, talking in bed isn’t just about making vocal sounds of acquiescence or discomfort. It involves spelling things out for your partner.
This can only happen if you say the wrong thing to your partner. You need to realize that during sex, you and your partner are at your most vulnerable states, and there are things you should never say during this time.
The same rules apply to cybersex, whether with your partner or during a live girl’s cam show.
What Can You Say During Sex?
Verbally seducing your partner during sex can take your sex life from 10 to 100. It is a way of letting them know that you’re present in the act and that they matter. So how do you do this without crossing the thin line between sexy and awkward?
How You Feel
You should talk about how you feel at the exact moment you are feeling it. It makes for a more intimate affair. It would help if you let your partner know how their actions affect you. And it doesn’t matter if you don’t have all the words to describe it; the shorter the sentence, the sexier.
Ask How They Feel
Sex should never be a one-sided affair. So, one thing to talk about during sex that would earn you orgasm points is asking how your partner feels.
Ask them if the position is perfect for them and if you’re doing it right. This is even hotter if you play dom/sub with your partner. Throw in some words of deference, and you’re game.
Encourage Them
Encourage your partner’s efforts. You can say things like: “I like it just like that”, or “You are making me go crazy” to show them how much you enjoy the moment with them.
Show Desire
You can express your enthusiasm verbally during sex too. Let your partner know how much you long for them. Let them know how intensely they affect you. If you and your partner have been apart for a while, make sure they know how much you’ve missed them and how they make you feel.
Talk About What Sex With Them Feels Like
You can remind your partner of past sexual experiences and how much you enjoyed it. Talk about how that moment made you feel, and if you’re both feeling like it, recreate it.
Their Name
If it’s not in a football chant, another place people like the sound of their name is in bed. Call your partner’s name or rather moan it. She’d respond to it. If you’re with a cam girl, you don’t need her real name for this; go with whatever name she gives you.
There is no manual to talking dirty or a dirty talk dictionary with a list of the right things to say. Keep it simple, so you don’t sound like broken pornographic audio. Talk about things personal to you and your partner that you can relate to in your sex life.
You should also note that your tone matters a lot when it comes to dirty talk. You can’t talk dirty while sounding like you’re holding a debate with your partner.
It is always a good idea to lower your voice and maybe even whisper those things into your partner’s ears. That way, it feels like both of you are in the world at that moment.
If you’re in a live session with a cam girl and want to try dirty talk, make sure you do not sound mechanical.
Tell your cam girl what you like and how you want it done. She would reciprocate in even more colorful language.