I always thought that the BDSM lifestyle was one of the most extreme lifestyles one would take and the videos I’ve seen don’t really have actresses who are into it. Sure, they still do it but only because they get paid to do it and not because they really want to do it.
That’s what I thought back then until Amber Rayne.
Amber Rayne was one of those actresses who used to perform in BDSM inspired videos and it wasn’t until a few years ago that I found out that she was really into it and not just for the money. She was so into it that she was also doing BDSM off screen!
Now I usually draw a line when it comes to topics involving BDSM because frankly that’s just not my thing but we’re talking about Amber Rayne here. She’s one of the most established porn actresses in the industry and I grew up beating off to her.
Everything about her just screamed porn with capital letters and in bold.
Heck even her name was tailor made to become successful in the porn industry. It’s not that easy to forget a name like hers and quite frankly, it is very catchy. Amber Rayne… it just rolls off the tongue effortlessly doesn’t it?
Amber Rayne also had very strong facial features giving her a rather regal look which must’ve been the reason why she landed a lot of roles during her tenure in the porn industry.
During her decade long career as an active porn star she managed to rack up somewhere between 500 to 550 films. That resulted in her name always being out there making her really, really hard to forget. The more exposure she got, the more offers came along and she got to do a lot of stuff most porn actresses she came out with weren’t able to do.
One of the reasons why she had a very unique look was because of her mixed heritage. She had the blood of Native Americans running through her veins. Couple that with some Scottish and Irish blood and you get a very unique and fresh looking face like hers. It seems like she got all the great qualities of those three races and made something of herself because of that.
So guys, don’t be afraid to mix it up. Get some good variety out there because life is too short and sticking to your own race is just plain boring.
Just as Amber Rayne was gifted with a pretty face, she is also quite athletic. She could stretch parts of herself without fear of tearing anything. If I remember correctly, she was the first woman I saw perform with one leg behind her head. She was so flexible that it was always interesting to see what she’d do next in future films.
Her on-screen persona was quite different from her off-screen personality though. Onscreen she could be anyone she wanted to be, mostly a dominant female commanding her male subjects to obey her every order or a school girl being taken advantage of by an old man. Off screen, Amber Rayne was pretty easy to get along with. She was, according to the people she had worked with, quite malleable in her approach towards dealing with people.
She just seems to have this switch inside her that she flicks on or off whenever the situation calls for it.
This is actually the reason why I was so surprised that she was heavily into BDSM because how could someone as nice as her be a dominatrix? Just as the thought entered my mind I realized that I was generalizing people and putting them in compartments. Of course people are unique and just because someone is expected to act a certain way doesn’t mean they are truly that way when they are not in that situation.
So, aside from being someone who taught me some real sex tips, Amber Rayne also taught me how to deal with life and prejudices. That’s a life lesson I have not forgotten yet.
And speaking of unforgettable things, have you seen her rack? No seriously, have you seen it? She has an almost non-existent rack. They’re 32Bs. All natural, no augmentation at all. When asked why she never had them enlarged she just replied that she loves her body as it is.
Good for her.
That’s another life lesson right there, acceptance of one’s self.
To be honest she really wasn’t the most sexy porn star out there during her time but she was quite prolific because she’d take all offers and do them all. She had no qualms about doing certain scenes. She had a one track mind, get the job and get paid. She knew that sooner or later she’d have to leave the industry so it was in her best interest to earn as much as she could now and invest it in her future.
In 2015, she left the industry and decided to live out the rest of her life on her horse ranch (paid for in full by the pay checks she got while she was still active). She showed young starlets that if you have a plan and you set your goals right you’ll eventually reach that point where you’ll be able to make your dreams come true without any help from anyone else. She showed what being truly independent meant.
It didn’t hurt that she was also one of those female porn stars who managed to take up other skills than just performing in front of the camera. She wasn’t just a porn star she was also a director, producer and editor. She didn’t need to be any of those but Amber Rayne is someone who believes that you should always be ready for something to come into your life and an opportunity to put those skills to the task did come during her decade long career as a porn actress. She has managed to direct, produce and edit a few films and she has the credits to show for it.
And like a true cowgirl, she left when the going was good astride her horse and headed for her horse farm to become a horse riding instructor.
She’ll be terribly missed.
Note:
When I ended this article, I had no idea she had passed away (accidental drug overdose). I usually write about porn actresses and jot down what I know instead of relying on the Internet for more info which could taint how I share things to you guys. I’m saddened but I still believe that she would’ve wanted to be remembered for the life she lived rather than how she died.
