I’m pretty sure that a lot of you have tried anal sex. Some of you don’t like it while some enjoyed it like it’s a cool spring shower. I don’t blame those who hated it ’cause maybe you pulled a booboo or something before doing it. Guys and gals. You have to communicate and prepare first. You just can’t go breaking into the backdoor with such excitement and… It can get you killed. Really. Oh, and it can also mess up your sheets.
So for those who want to try it (and have a pleasurable experience with it), wants to try it again, or whatever… Please follow this complete and somewhat sensual guide on how to prepare for and properly do anal sex.
1. Ready the Battlefield
Yup, just like any other lovemaking, it needs a romantic and really clean space. Also, it better takes some good messing up, just in case. Go ahead, bring on the scent. Light a candle, prepare wine, put some rose petals on the bed. It’s up to you. Just to get your partner in the…
Oh, and please. Make your that you’re both squeaky clean. Have the receiving end of the anal sex ‘go to the loo’ at least 2 hours before the session.
2. The Mood
You got to communicate. It takes two to tango. It always has. So if one of you doesn’t like it, don’t push it. You can convince her or him but don’t be bossy. Play it like your courting a damsel. Yup, even if you’re a woman. Court your man into doing it. Also, once you get into the mood. You better have a lot of lube ready.
3. The Lube
The mood is there. Now you need two kinds of lube. One to do the deed with (water based), and one to relax him/her with. I’m talking about oil. Yup, loosen your woman (or man) with a sensual massage. It helps a lot, believe me. Oh, and it will help you (both) understand your bodies more.
4. Have a Regular Before the Special
How about a little bit of your regular intercourse or maybe eat her out first. As long as she orgasms. Yeah, have her climax first. Even once. That’ll relax her more.
5. Explore the Rim
Have her lie on her belly and with the use of our finger, gently caress the rim of her anus first. Do that for around 5 minutes. Then slowly, put a little of your index or middle finger inside. Only until the first line on the finger. Yup, above the base of the nail. Move it (again, slowly) in a circular motion. Like you want it to be a little loose.
Woman, have your man do it.
6. Observe the Reactions
Your finger will feel it, your eyes will see it. I mean, see it if she’s ready for it. A twitch from her will tell you what you need to know. Also, listen. And listen well. Then continuously tell her to relax. To loosen her glutes.
7. The position is The Key
Find a position that is most comfortable for both of you. Oh, and don’t go charging that dick of your inside. Do it with the head for a good couple of minutes and then increasing the penetration by a couple of or several millimeters. Again, observe the reactions. Oh, and use a lot of number 3. The lube man. Not the massage oil.
8. Go Really Slow
Even if it’s all in, you must go really, really slow. Make your thrusts sensual. Have her take control of the speed by putting her hands on your hips.
9. Wear Protection
Yup. Use a condom, now if she’s your wife or fiance or girlfriend for a long time, it’s all up to you.
10. A Recovery Sex
You know those cyclists that do a hundred or so miles and will do another 30 miles the next day. That next-day short ride is called a recovery ride. They also do it with trail running or marathons. The purpose of the recovery ride (or run) is to get the blood flowing. The increased blood flow without the higher stress on the muscles from riding hard will help to enhance and speed recovery. Same with anal sex (sort of). You must do it again the next day or the day after that to you know… Have it recover and get used to the penetration.
Oh, and please, once you get it inside, don’t put it in any other place like the vagina or the ‘ass to mouth’ thingie that you watch in porn. It’s not healthy and it’s disgusting. Remember that real life and porn differs a lot. A LOT.
That’s if folks. Follow those steps and you’ll have a wonderful time.