Even the hugest fans of the missionary position still secretly dream about various sex toys, new positions, and role-playing games. Believe it, even if a person sincerely proves that he or she will never try something like that, it’s all the same – all people sometimes want to experience at least several options of non-standard pleasure. BDSM is just one of them.
There are a lot of talks and myths around this topic that are spread by various people with different goals. Some of them want to try BDSM, but either religious beliefs or something else does not allow them to do this. Others are ardent supporters of classic sex which includes only the missionary position, subdued lighting, and three hundred blankets. We can say one thing here – tastes differ. We have selected several facts in order to dispel some of the myths related to the topic of BDSM.
BDSM does not always involve sex
Most people firmly believe that BDSM is always sex. Yes, of course, it is assumed that such sexual pleasures should lead to a happy ending, but it is not always the case. Some people clearly draw a line where sex is possible and where not. Both of these states bring physical satisfaction, which is very sensual, passionate, and intense. But one should distinguish them. Even in spite of the fact that BDSM implies nudity, sexual satisfaction, harsh affection, and stimulation of intimate zones, one can completely do without sex itself. The procedure brings more physical and psychological satisfaction than the sexual one.
People practicing BDSM are completely normal
Unfortunately, many consider these people a bit mad. But it is the biggest and most unpleasant delusion. A person does not engage in BDSM because they were abused as a child or becamea victim of domestic violence. To be honest, this is complete nonsense and pure subjectification.
Enjoying such sex is a personal choice, and it’s very silly to say that “you probably had some kind of injury in your childhood.” These are ordinary people who like such kind of sex. These can be your neighbors, friends, a supermarket salesman, or a postman. You do not need to condemn people for their sexual preferences because, admit it, you also have something to be condemned for. Explain it to your loved one, and there will be no signs your wife wants to leave you because of such specific desires.
Safety first
Those who practice BDSM in everyday life often pay much more attention to safety than some workers in hazardous industries. Before a couple wants to have such sex, they discuss in advance all the nuances that include the desires of both partners. No one will ever force a person to do actions that he or she does not like or want. You must understand that brute enforcement is violence against human will. In addition to the fact that all the nuances of the process are discussed in advance, there are certain stop words that are needed in order to stop any action of the partner. No wonder why the main motto of BDSM is the abbreviation SSC, which means the three main principles of this subculture: safe, sane, and consensual.
Being a slave is not humiliating
In the framework of a role-playing game, there really is a certain infringement upon the freedom of the individual. Insults, orders, and offensive remarks are allowed. Moral suppression is manifested exclusively during the BDSM process, and the rest of the time your spouse can remain a caring and loving person. By the way, you can discuss forbidden topics in advance, for example, to put forward a claim not to criticize the weight or appearance.
You do not change for the worse after BDSM
After BDSM, one should not expect dramatic changes in behavior and life attitudes. After the one occasion of such sex with your loved one, you will not become a nymphomaniac or an asocial individual. Although, regular BDSM practice does not postpone the negative impact on mental health. Undoubtedly, you will discover new sensations and learn to understand your body and desires better.
