We’ve all thought about it. Even now, I know you’re still considering it. And yes, we can’t blame you for two reasons… One, it’s an adventure you’ll remember (and there’s proof that it happened) for the rest of your lives, and two, maybe (okay, maybe not maybe) you can monetize it if you wish. It all started with the circus that is the Pamela and Tommy tape, after that… an awful lot. And yes, it even launched the others to international stardom. Also, some of you may have even seen your friends and their partners in your favorite porn site. With faces covered but that so familiar tattoo on the neck and above the ass gave them away. Yup, making and having one is exciting.
If you and your partner are thinking of making your own X-rated movie, there are some things you’ll have to consider beforehand. And we’re here to enumerate and discuss them with you. So let’s start.
Type and content are critical.
What you do defines you, so they say. But hey, in all seriousness, you are about to capture something very important so why not make it really tasteful? You and your partner should really agree on the content ahead of time. As with unrecorded sex, it’s important to establish what your boundaries are.
Ask each other whether you would want it raw and rough or to incorporate sex toys. Positions and probably a role-play discussion would also help as a little too much improvisation with cause you chaos. It is also important to discuss the length of filming and the shots (angles and multiple cameras).
Having these discussions beforehand will help you and your partner be at ease and avoid any conflict or discomfort.
Relax before you record
Do foreplay before the camera starts rolling as nothing is more natural than a relaxed state. You won’t look like amateurs and you will definitely look like you know what you are doing once in the mood.
Make sure you both feel connected and intimate. Begin the session (yeah, session as once satisfied with the result, you’d be making a lot more) by cuddling, kissing, and fondling each other. This will make you so relaxed and turned on and it will make the shoot more a more pleasurable experience for the both of you.
The nerves, however, can really get into you. You know, knowing that you are recording can make you really feel conscious so try to listen to your feelings carefully. You can always do a retake if it makes you uncomfortable.
Don’t rush. Again, relax
You and your paramour must have a high level of trust because you will be relying on each other to keep the recording private. This activity should be a mutually agreeable decision.
Because of the sensitive nature of what you intend to film, it is critical to establish ground rules for what will happen to the video once it has been filmed, how it will be watched, when/if it will be deleted, and what should happen to the tape if the two of you break up.
Both parties should devise a strategy for deleting all sexually explicit photographs and videos of each other if the relationship ends in order to avoid scenarios in which material is unintentionally or purposefully released.
From affecting future employment opportunities to creating emotional and sexual trauma, all ramifications should be discussed and weighed.
What you know is enough (for now)
This is not an entry for a contest nor is this about performance so don’t be afraid to stick to what you know.
Don’t feel compelled to recreate the wheel simply because you’re on film. Making a sex film is an excellent opportunity to try something new with your spouse, and the excitement of having a camera set up may encourage you to experiment. However, if you are feeling awkward or nervous, it is perfectly OK to stick to the sexual actions that you are most comfortable with; some couples may choose to pretend that the camera is not present.
Remember to just enjoy it as it’s the process of making the tape that is fun and not the result. Yup, just like the old saying… It’s the journey and not the destination.
Protect your partner, protect yourself, protect your video.
Once you’ve done filming, try to avoid putting it into cloud storage as it can be easily hacked. Very much like those leaked celebrity nudes and videos. It’s best to store it on an external hard drive and lock it in a safe. Keep it there until you are ready to release it to a site or sell it to an agent.
Oh, yeah, you may want to wipe it from your device. Triple-check your trash, recycle bins, or phone storage.
And now, some tips for the shoot itself.
Remember that inspiration is key so…
Get inspired! You want your sex tape to be sexy and amusing. Take some time to consider what you want to get out of this experience, and discuss it with your partner. Here are a few variables to consider:
Do you want the movie to have a plot? Or do you simply want to watch sex?
Do you want to be yourself in the film, or do you want to portray another character? Roleplaying can help some people relax because they are playing the role of someone else. For some, needing to be in character may increase the pressure!
Where do you want to film? The bed is always a safe bet, but you can also move to other rooms.
Which specific acts would you like to film? Would you like to play with props or sex toys?
Now, folks, we can guide you a little once you’ve established what you really want with each other.
The Mood and The Build-Up
Make sure you have proper lighting. Not only will you look nice, but you will also be able to see what is going on in real-time. After all, that is the purpose of this, right? The better the lighting, the better the sex will appear!
Great films (and sex) are all about creating anticipation. So start with some clothing on and gradually undress. The more intimate stuff you layer on, the better because you can gradually take them off and release the sexual tension.
Tip: Use sensual oil on your companion and massage his entire body before switching. Take turns doing so. It will appear gorgeous on video and feel great on your gleaming skin. Furthermore, the slippery oil will allow you to slip and slide all over each other, making for exciting sex.
Give in and let go
You are well aware that the best sex occurs when you are fully present. If you are self-conscious about your body or facial expressions, the camera will notice (as will your companion). Concentrate on how you feel right now rather than how you appear. Trust me, your O-face will appear better if you don’t try to make it flatline.
Also, experiment with the power dynamics of dominance and submission, and try some mild bondage using attractive shackles and a blindfold. Use some nasty conversation to describe how you feel or what you want your spouse to do to you.
What to do if you feel awkward
Making a sex tape is difficult! It is very acceptable to feel shy, frightened, anxious, or awkward. If it seems like too huge a project to take on all at once, try breaking it down into smaller parts.
First, try snapping images of you and your spouse in lingerie or naked in front of the mirror. Try to obtain a sense of your favorite body parts and the best angles to highlight them. Next, have your partner shoot naughty images of you and vice versa, and then provide both inputs. From there, try snapping simple point-of-view photos while you are intimate. Pass the phone back and forth and see how inventive you can be. Start with simple sex actions, such as kissing or touching, then work your way up to more intense activities. Work your way up to brief video clips featuring only a few licks or thrusts.
After each photo or video, experiment with simple editing tools similar to what you’d find on your phone. This can let you realize how many changes you can make in “post-production,” which may calm your anxiety. You will quickly become more at ease in front of the camera!
Watch and edit together.
Sell it, post it (for free), or keep it. Remember that this visual souvenir is for you two to enjoy and have fun with. Consider it the sexiest porn you’ve ever seen, or those wonderful moments in bed with your spouse that you want you could experience again and over again, and remember while the camera rolls. Do whatever turns you both on the most, because that is all that counts.
And before we end this, please consider what camera to use, as choosing the right one for your film is all about what you want out of it, how much money you want to spend, and your overall vision.