Some of you might think that you’re pretty good at it. But are you? This article is a guide (and tips, for those who don’t know some details) on mastering the 69 position. Oh, and this one is not only for you. Have your girl read this, too. So are you ready to rock each other’s world? Of course, you are.
Nothing is more intimate than this position… The beauty of 69-ing is that it allows both of you to experience the intimacy and physicality of oral sex simultaneously.
The Basics
The most popular (and probably most common) 69-ing position is for one person to lie on their back while the other person lies in the opposite manner (on top). But you can experiment, of course. You and your partner basically have an unofficial 69 Position. You know, your usual… meaning one of you is always top and one of you is always on the bottom? If so, reverse the position! This will allow you both to explore each other’s genitals from a different perspective, maybe introducing you to new hot places.
Comfort and Protection
Are you going to get paralysis from 69-ing? Probably not. However, if your neck remains in a suboptimal position for an extended period of time, you may tweak a muscle, pinch a nerve, or cramp. So, if you’re on the bottom, keep your neck supported with a wrapped shirt, cushion, or other positioning solutions.
Your entire body, including your neck, should be comfortable. If you are positioned in a way that causes discomfort, it will limit your ability to enjoy pleasure. So, before you begin licking, take the time to locate the best posture for both of your bodies to open up and relax into the pleasure.
Experiment and be Consistent
The mouth and tongue can perform various functions that our genitals cannot, such as licking, sucking, blowing, flicking, nipping, and biting. So, spend some time discovering what your partner enjoys, and connect with them along the route, allowing them to tell you what they appreciate.
Ask questions like:
“Do you prefer it when I flick or suck?” “I’m going to attempt different tongue speeds. Will you let me know when I create one that you like?” “Does it feel good?”
Once you’ve discovered something your partner likes, stick with it. Consistency is key to climax.
Pro Tip: Once you’ve found two or three motions that your partner enjoys, continue with them for a bit before trying another.
Another Pro Tip: Don’t just rely on your mouth. Use your hand. Why limit yourself to your lips when you may use your hands to hold, touch, squeeze, stroke, circle, and penetrate your partner? Using your hands will not only enhance the sensations listed above, but will also save your mouth from tiring.
Height Doesn’t Matter
When one partner is taller than the other, the difference in height is often due to leg length rather than torso length. Usually, even with a height difference, the standard 69 position can be done comfortably. The conventional arrangement cannot accommodate extreme height discrepancies.
In these cases, White suggests trying sideways 69 (also known as slanted 69), which positions both couples on their sides. The taller partner can form a C-shape with their body, which “eliminates” their height and helps align their lips with their genitals. Another alternative is for one partner to perform oral sex while the other uses an oral sex stimulation gadget, such as the Tenga Easy-Beat Egg or We-Vibe Melt (look it up).
Oh, and body type doesn’t really matter. You see, 69 is an excellent position since it accommodates most body type combinations, including partners of varying body sizes. If one partner is larger-bodied, they may be on the bottom. Alternatively, attempt sideways 69, which ensures that neither one bears the weight of the other person.
Support if there’s Discomfort
Oh, and you will totally need these, especially if you are in your 40s….
Small spherical and hemispherical pillows are ideal for your neck. Even the maternity pillows function wonderfully.
For your body: Do you enjoy being on top, but wish it wasn’t so hard on your arms and core? Consider incorporating a sex chair. Stools with two elastic straps, or sex chairs, are designed to be put over the bottom partner and then mounted by the top partner. During the 69 position, the top partner may place the chair over their partner’s face and sit down. The elastic straps will provide support for your body while allowing your lover access to your genitals.
For your hips: If you’re on the bottom and your partner is having trouble reaching your bits, try placing a pillow beneath your hips. This will adjust the angle of your hips, allowing your spouse to make love to you with their tongue.
Incorporating Toys
Finger vibrators are an excellent way to introduce vibration into play because they do not require holding. You just have to slip them over your finger(s).
You might use a finger vibrator to stimulate your partner’s clitoris between licks or insert it into the vagina. You can also use it to tease your partner’s perineum. If you already have a vibrating C-ring, you don’t need to purchase a new one. Simply place two (or three) fingers through the aperture.
Lick lower or use a butt plug. Yep, we’re talking analingus!
The butthole has about 4,000 nerves that are so pleasurable that you can feel phenoms. The optimal position for receiving oral anal is on top in the classic 69 position. Leaning forward while on top should allow your partner more access.
Another technique to integrate the bum is to have one or both partners wear butt plugs. That way, every time your pelvic floor muscles tighten for pleasure — as they are likely to occur during oral — you will stimulate all of the nerves in the anal canal. Hello, sensation.
What if you’ve tried everything and still crave more? If reciprocal oral sex is not working for you and your partner, try a different oral sex position.
For example, standing kneeling oral needs the receiver to stand while the giver kneels in front (or behind!) them. Or face sitting (also known as squatting or oral), in which the giver lies on their back while the receiver kneels or squats over their mouth.
If the oral aspect of 69-ing isn’t working for you and your boo, no worries! Simply stick to other sex actions, such as penetrative intercourse, oral sex, fingering, and mutual masturbation.
After all, no sex position is suitable for every pleasure seeker!