Being in lockdown with our partners hasn’t always been easy. At times, it’s seemed to only intensify and highlight any issues that may have been humming along in the background. “This may be because we no longer have the ability to as easily compartmentalism our feelings or frustrations.” Says the beautiful soul behind Elite Indulgence. Specializing in bodyrubs, she also knows a thing or two about how to please a partner.
“There’s a lot of stressors surrounding our everyday lives right now, with fewer outlets than we’re used to. We need to find ways to relax and reconnect.” One of those ways might just be learning how to give your partner bodyrubs that they’ll actually enjoy. The bonus? You might just find that you really like giving them.
Set the Mood Before Beginning the Bodyrub or Massage
A massive part of bodyrubs and massages is the mental aspect that a ton of us forget about. What makes them such an enticing way to show our partners that we genuinely care about their wellbeing is that body rubs address more than just sore muscles. They address feelings, desires, and mentality. They allow our counterparts to disconnect from anything that is bothering them and to reconnect with us. In our spaces.
The best way to ensure that you can effectively create this oasis at home is by curating the details. Paying attention to the little things. Make a space in your home that is quiet and calm. Use moody lighting and light music to amplify those relaxing vibes. Snag some decent oils and aromatherapy products online and have them ready. Think about what you’re wearing, make sure it’s simple and easy to remove. Create the ideal environment so your partner won’t have to. This shows them that you’re thinking about them in every respect, and putting in some serious time and work to meet their needs.
Pay Attention
Once you’ve got your space nailed down, now it’s important to go a level deeper. Pay attention to the things they enjoy. Their favorite smells, how they respond to your touch. Watch their body react to yours. Without speaking, find ways to really focus on and accentuate the things that elicit the most pleasurable responses. The key to effective non-verbal communication is learning how to appreciate what your partner’s body is telling you and respond in kind.
This manner of communication allows your partner’s needs to be met without the distracting action of having to verbalize it, allowing them to stay present longer. Sometimes, attempting to verbalize desires can detract from receiving them, as it requires one to remove themselves from their present state of mind and figure out how to communicate to your state of mind. It takes effort- which is something that can act as a disturbance to their mellow vibes.
Use Your Whole Body During The Massage and Bodyrub
If you’ve ever given your partner a simple shoulder massage, you’re aware of how physically taxing it can be. Your hands may cramp up, or your arms can quickly fatigue. This is just one reason why it’s super important to use your entire body when giving your partner a body rub. Start slowly, using a combination of fingers and palms to gently work their body into a more relaxed state. From there, move on to forearms, elbows, chest and arms, slowly moving your body against their own.
This creates an intense sense of intimacy, but doesn’t necessarily belay the responsibility of a sexual act. It allows your bodies to become comfortable with one another without portent. Where the bodyrub goes from here is up to you both, but don’t force it, just let it flow calmly and seductively.
Follow Through After the Bodyrub or Massage
Anytime you’ve finished with a bodyrub or massage, be sure and follow up with your partner, either opting for a sweet cuddle session or bite of food, or maybe a chat about your experiences. These types of massages are incredibly intimate, and they are capable of opening up some pretty extreme emotions. Check in with your partner, let them know that you care for them.