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<\/p>\nOh, yes!\u00a0 The 69 position…\u00a0 The safest to not get your girlfriend pregnant and yes, most of you did this back in high school.\u00a0 Admit it!\u00a0 When your girlfriend doesn’t want to give up her virginity yet and\/or you can’t find a condom anywhere.\u00a0 But now, there’s more to this position than just letting off steam from your crotch.\u00a0 Yup, it has become an expression of true love.\u00a0 That or you just want to really convince someone how passionate you are and how much of a give and take you’d want from that relationship.\u00a0 May it be fuck buddies or boyfriend girlfriend.<\/p>\n
Okay, but there are also those who are not comfortable with the idea of you know.\u00a0 We’ll get to that later.\u00a0 First, let’s focus on those who love it, and let’s give them tips on how they can improve their 69ing.<\/p>\n
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You all know what the 69 position is…\u00a0 But just to make it clear, it is typically depicted as one partner lying flat on their back while the other lies on top of them, facing the opposite direction, so the partners are positioned mouth to genitals.\u00a0 This allows for simultaneous oral sex.\u00a0 It can also be done with partners lying on their sides.\u00a0 Yum.\u00a0 Especially if Ana Lucia<\/a> is the one you’re doing it to.<\/p>\n So what are the basics?\u00a0 You know that.\u00a0 But just to remind those who have forgotten the importance of good foreplay…\u00a0 Have your partner lie down, flat on their back.\u00a0 Then climb on top (or let your partner), so you’re facing away from your partner.\u00a0 Your junk should be lined up with your partner’s mouth, and their genitals should be lined up with yours.\u00a0 Alternatively, try it in a side-by-side position.<\/p>\n Now, how to err make it more passionate…<\/p>\n The trick to 69ing like a pro is to have fun with it.\u00a0 Keep it relaxed and sensual.\u00a0 For example…\u00a0 ladies, have your partner lie on the bed so that his head’s hanging slightly over the edge.\u00a0 Stand on the floor over him, and as you kiss and massage his upper half, slowly crawl your way down his body until you’re both in position. And vice versa!<\/p>\n Don’t forget:\u00a0 There’s plenty more body to explore as you’re going down on each other.\u00a0 Not only can your hands pleasure the other hot spots surrounding his nether regions\u2014such as his testicles and perineum\u2014but they can also be put to good use when your mouth needs a breather.<\/p>\n Sensate focus exercises, which require couples to focus on the sensation of being touched, are often used to help people reconnect in the bedroom.<\/p>\n The gist of it is that by focusing on how it feels to be touched in certain ways, the pair has a better understanding of what turns them on, ultimately leading to better sex.\u00a0 Put the concept to use during 69 by focusing deeply on what it feels like to touch and be touched.\u00a0 Take a moment to trace your partner’s spine, or the curve of their butt, instead of just going after it.<\/p>\n “Giving cunnilingus in this position can be awkward,”<\/em> says Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First and Passionista, no matter how many pillows are involved.\u00a0 Keep a small vibrator handy or tell your partner to stimulate the vulva in addition to tongue action, he suggests.<\/p>\n Internal sex toys could also maximize pleasure for two vulva-owning partners. And if you’re multi-orgasmic, it’s okay to take breaks, slow things down, or provide a different rhythm of stimulation to adjust to your partner’s post-orgasmic sensitivity.<\/p>\n A dildo can also work wonders.\u00a0 Using dildos or internal vibrators can provide a kind of penetrative pleasure that fingers or tongues can\u2019t give in 69.\u00a0 It can also help if you or are your partner are feeling a little tired.<\/p>\n Yes, it can be hard to focus on your own orgasm as you’re trying to please your partner.\u00a0 If the distraction is seriously interfering with your O game, feel free to take some breaks here and there.\u00a0 Think intervals, not a marathon!<\/p>\n If you’re planning to make the 69 position your main event, the most comfortable way to do so would be for both of you to lie on your side.\u00a0 You won’t have to worry about muscle strain or limbs landing where they shouldn’t, and you can use each other’s thighs as a pillow to keep neck pain to a minimum.<\/p>\n Don’t get stuck in a rut with your oral sex skills.\u00a0 In this context, go-to moves are not your friend.\u00a0 Go slow, go fast, go in circles, go in long strokes, change up the pressure and suction\u2014try and create a unique experience every time.\u00a0 Also important?\u00a0 Having fun with it.\u00a0 The hottest blow job is when the woman is really enjoying the sensations from the blow job herself.\u00a0 Same with eating her out.<\/p>\n Orgasm doesn\u2019t need to be the goal of 69.\u00a0 Taking the pressure off of it allows the position to be fun and playful.\u00a0 It might be a position that you warm up in and move to another position for orgasm.<\/p>\n For more tips on how to pleasure orally, do check out this<\/a> and this<\/a>.\u00a0 You’re welcome.<\/p>\n Yup, believe it or believe it but there are those who don’t even want to think about it.\u00a0 I don’t know, maybe a bad experience from the past or something.\u00a0 But hey, it’s your duty, as a partner, to ignite the fires of pleasures once again.\u00a0 You don’t have to use much persuasive power.\u00a0 Just ask her (or him) to try it out once more and assure them that they will like it or if not, you’d just stop.<\/p>\n If they still need a little convincing, maybe this will help.\u00a0 Yup, we’re going to talk about the alibis or the complains that they would usually give you.<\/p>\n You\u2019ve got someone\u2019s genitals in your mouth\u2026\u00a0 in my honest opinion, that\u2019s some pretty intimate business.\u00a0 So, if it\u2019s in your head that 69ing is as intimate as speculum insertion, consider how you\u2019re approaching it.<\/p>\n As pleasure-based sex educator and sex-positivity advocate Lateef Taylor says, \u201c69ing is not a position in a football game. If you\u2019re getting into the position mechanically, of course it\u2019s going to feel un-intimate.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n Instead, Taylor\u2019s advice starts with creating a mood. Make sure you\u2019re in an atmosphere of intimacy before arranging your bodies like freaky digits.\u00a0 Start with kissing, make eye contact, fondle each other, and maybe start in missionary oral before one person does a 180 with their body.\u00a0 You might not easily get eye contact with 69ing, but there are other ways to create that intimacy with words and sounds.\u00a0 Moaning gives you the extra benefit of mouth-made vibration on your genitals.<\/p>\n Some height combos won\u2019t work.\u00a0 If someone is 4\u203211\u2033 and their partner 6\u20322\u2033, the classic 69 isn\u2019t going to work.\u00a0 Still, there are ways to make it work as long as you\u2019re not committed to making that very specific 69 shapes.<\/p>\n Having the taller partner be on the bottom and stack pillows, blankets, or a sex wedge under their hips can help contort their body so that their junk is in reach of the shorter partner\u2019s mouth.\u00a0 You can also try sidecar 69.\u00a0 This position turns both partners on their sides, allowing the taller partner to bend their body to make their genital more accessible to the shorter partner.<\/p>\n Another option:\u00a0 Incorporate a toy with a long-ass handle (and lube) like the Magic Wand or Le Wand Petite, which is less bulky.\u00a0 And if your bits are still not aligned, no matter how much you try to make it work, why not have one partner use an oral sex stimulator on themselves as they give their partner head?<\/p>\n Body-positive sex educator Carly S with The Pleasure Chest has got a PSA for bigger-bodied folks: \u201cMutual oral is absolutely available to you and your partner(s) if you want it to be.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n Her biggest piece of advice?\u00a0 Embrace pleasure products as pleasure enhancers.<\/p>\n For instance, she\u2019s a fan of using a positioning chair, like this one on Amazon.\u00a0 \u201cI\u2019m a plus-sized person and have some knee problems (unrelated to my weight). When I\u2019m the partner on top while 69ing, sitting on this chair over my partner\u2019s face can help support my body weight and take some of the strain off my knees,\u201d she says. \u201cAnd the straps help keep my thighs open to give my partner better access to my bits.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n If not, she says you might try a sex swing or sex sling.\u00a0 \u201cThe bigger-bodied person can sit in the swing, which will help spread their thighs, and their partner can kneel between their legs and lick. It can make giving and receiving oral so much fun.\u201d<\/em> She suggests this one.<\/p>\n Other props can come to play too.\u00a0 Oral-sex stimulators like the Fleshlight Quick Shot or the Svakom Cookie can help mimic the sensation of receiving head, she says.<\/p>\n Anxiety is basically the antithesis of pleasure, no matter the position.\u00a0 And while you should never feel pressured to try any position that makes you anxious, if you enjoy both receiving and giving oral, Finn encourages you to do two things:<\/p>\n First, talk to your partner about your nerves.\u00a0 The simple act of speaking up can help ease your fears.\u00a0 Hey, partners who troubleshoot anxiety together stay together.<\/p>\n Second, think through where your feelings are coming from.\u00a0 Is it because you\u2019re self-conscious about your genitals?<\/p>\n If your anxiety is centered on the rest of your body, leave your shirt on!\u00a0 Heck, leave your sweats on too.\u00a0 The sensation of a nose and mouth in and around your genitals can be hot even if there is a fabric barrier.\u00a0 Better yet, opt for the material that will enhance the feeling of touch and tongue, like silk, satin, or cotton.<\/p>\n Your partner is sooo good at giving oral that you lose your wits when giving it to them?\u00a0 Nope, should not work that way.<\/p>\n Hearing and feeling someone lose control because of how good you\u2019re making them feel is always hot and that includes when they\u2019re also giving you head.\u00a0 Yep, your distraction doubles as sexy reinforcement.<\/p>\n Most people can\u2019t focus on giving when they\u2019re about to come, but that\u2019s why having a sex toy and lube in reach can be helpful.<\/p>\n If you and your partner shower beforehand or use a wet wipe, you really don\u2019t have to worry about poop residue being around the entrance of the anus.\u00a0 Poop lives higher up in the rectum, so if you\u2019re just licking and playing with the opening, it\u2019s not going to be an issue.<\/p>\n The entrance of the anus has a lot of nerve endings, so alternating between oral and analingus can be incredibly pleasurable.\u00a0 Or, while you\u2019re licking your partner\u2019s genitals, apply a dab of lube onto your fingertip or use saliva and trace their sphincter muscle with the pad of your fingertip, she suggests.\u00a0 Safety tip: If you have long fingernails, don a latex glove to help dull the nail\u2019s edge.<\/p>\n For people who don\u2019t love rimming, inserting a butt plug before getting into the 69 position can offer a similar sensation.<\/p>\n 69ing doesn\u2019t have to *just* be about licking.\u00a0 And it’s okay if it’s not your favorite nor will it be.\u00a0 But…<\/p>\n If you know your partner likes having their G-spot stimulated, perineum stimulated, or back of the knee touched, incorporate those moves into 69ing.\u00a0 Nipple tweaking, tush squeezing, and anal fingering are also up for grabs here.<\/p>\n Oh, yes!\u00a0 The 69 position…\u00a0 The safest to not get your girlfriend pregnant and yes, most of you did this back in high school.\u00a0 Admit it!\u00a0 When your girlfriend doesn’t want to give up her virginity yet and\/or you can’t find a condom anywhere.\u00a0 But now, there’s more to this position than just letting off […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":4373,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[2216,2217],"class_list":["post-4362","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-2216","tag-sixty-nine"],"yoast_head":"\r\n1.\u00a0 Why so serious?\u00a0 Chill!<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n2.\u00a0 Don’t just use your mouth.<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3.\u00a0 Turn it into a sensual experience.<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4.\u00a0 Use a toy.<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5.\u00a0 A dildo might come in handy.<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n6.\u00a0 Take breaks.<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n7.\u00a0 To the left, to the left<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n8.\u00a0 Switch it up, orally.<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n9.\u00a0 Play with pressures.<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nAnd now, for those who don’t want it.<\/h2>\n
1.\u00a0 It doesn\u2019t feel intimate<\/h2>\n
2.\u00a0 Afraid of heights<\/h2>\n
3.\u00a0 Size, size, size<\/h2>\n
4.\u00a0 Of course, the anxiety<\/h2>\n
5.\u00a0 Focus on focus<\/h2>\n
6.\u00a0 Sanitary<\/h2>\n
7.\u00a0 Not as good as the other positions<\/h2>\n
So there folks, everything you need to make 69 one hell of an experience.<\/h2>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"