There is a fine line between objectifying and admiring beauty. Or is there? Who the hell cares! All I know is we appreciate two extremely attractive beings making love to each other. It’s like watching Halley’s comet dance with Ceasar’s comet dance with each other in the midnight sky… Yes! That is perhaps the main reason why you and I love lesbian porn. Yup, exactly that and the sudden surge of libido once we hear two hot women kissing and slowly getting down on it!
Okay, so there’s that. It totally covers why we men love lesbian sex. Now, how about women? Do they watch it? How do lesbians have sex, really? Because lesbian porn sex is 90% acting and aesthetics. Well, folks… we will discuss all of that with this article. Oh, and this is not just for you guys. Have your girlfriends or wives read this. And then ask them about lesbian porn. It could lead to a more exciting sex life for both (or plus 1) of you.
Straight Women Love Them
“Lesbian” is the most popular porn category for female viewers, according to a report. Yup, a report.
A recent PornHub report shows that “lesbian” is the most popular category for female viewers of this digital porn portal. The category was actually 151% more popular with women than with men. Surprising, right?
Of course, lesbian women probably account for some of that popularity. But the data suggests that a lot of straight women are clicking into it, too. A recent Gallup poll found just 5% of women identify as LGBT, which leads us to believe plenty of straight-identifying women are getting off on girl-on-girl porn. Now, why do you think is that? You see, in lesbian porn, the male’s pleasure is not the focus. Yup, because admit it or not, it doesn’t cater to all women. It is usually centered around male pleasure and it often involves super aggressive intercourse with the guy in control. But penis-in-vagina jackhammering isn’t what makes most women hit that high note. Instead, it’s more about clitoral stimulation, and there’s lots of that in lesbian porn. Oh, and hetero porn always seems to end when the guy ejaculates. Lesbian porn is all about women reaching that big O. So Yes, it’s more relatable to them because…
Female Sexuality Is More Fluid
Culturally, it’s more acceptable for women to experiment sexually with women than for men to play around with men. That’s not to say lesbian women don’t still face discrimination. But when a woman hooks up with another woman, it’s often seen as sexy; when a man does it, it’s seen as strange. That’s one reason women are more sexually fluid. Studies have shown that women are turned on by a much wider range of things than men, she says. Why we’re hard-wired that way is unclear, but it’s something to embrace and enjoy.
So are all these women watching lesbian porn secretly attracted to women themselves?
Maybe some, sure. “Women do tend to be more fluid in their sexuality and allow themselves greater permission to explore their curiosities than men tend to,” Vanessa Marin, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy and female orgasm says.
Whereas our culture heavily punishes men for exploring sexualities outside the accepted heterosexual norms, women don’t quite get the same amount of social blowback for showing interest in other women. Simply put, it’s just a lot easier and more socially acceptable for women to wander outside the lines of straightness to see what else is out there.
But while some studies have suggested that women are more likely than men to be sexually aroused by both men and women, that doesn’t necessarily mean those women would be interested in actually sexually engaging with other women. Fantasy and reality are different, after all, and not everything we’re physically aroused by is necessarily what mentally turns us on.
So to put it simply: No, enjoying lesbian porn as a woman doesn’t necessarily mean you’re secretly lesbian, bisexual, or some other sexual identity involving attraction to women.
The Draw of Lesbian Porn for Women
Again, porn categories involving men and women usually depict scenarios involving a lot of aggression, unequal power dynamics, and a very specific depiction of femininity that’s mostly designed to be good-looking to a straight guy. Moreover, these videos focus heavily on penetration, which research shows some four in five women can’t reach orgasm from by itself.
But with lesbian porn, there’s a lot more diversity of sexual acts and relationships displayed.
It’s really just that simple: In sex scenes involving only women, the women actually get off. Women are depicted as being catered to, pleasured, and satisfied by partners who are their equals. So is it any surprise that plenty of women are hooked?
How Do Two Women Have Sex
Before we talk about lesbian sex, let’s talk about what the phrase means.
Usually, people use the term “lesbian sex” to mean sex between two women. If that’s the case, remember that those women might not identify as lesbian.
For example, they could identify as bisexual, pansexual, queer, or even heterosexual. Sex between women isn’t limited to lesbians. Remember, also, that “lesbian sex” isn’t limited to cisgender couples. It also includes other people who have vaginas, people with penises, and people with intersex genitalia.
Heterosexual couples, for example, may have oral, manual, or penetrative sex. It all depends on the couple and what they like to do. Similarly, lesbian sex — or sex between women, whether cis or trans — can include whatever kind of sex you’d like to try.
Don’t believe everything you’ve heard
There are lots of myths out there about lesbian sex. Here are a few:
Someone has to be “the man” in the scenario. Some people believe that one partner does all the penetration while the other does all the receiving. This is the dynamic for some couples, but not all — and remember, penetrating doesn’t make you a “man.”
It’s easier because you’re both women. Remember that just because you’re both women doesn’t mean you have the same genitals — for example, one person might be a cis woman with a vagina, while the other might be a trans woman with a penis. Even if you do have the same genitals, everybody is different. What one partner finds pleasurable, another partner might find boring.
You have to use a strap-on. Strap-ons are sex toys that are often penis-like in shape. They attach to one partner’s pelvis using a harness or underwear-like attachment. They can be used to penetrate the vagina or anus. While these can be enjoyable, they’re not a must-have. Whether you use one is up to you.
You have to scissor. Scissoring is when two people with vaginas open their legs and rub their vulvas together. While some people enjoy this, it’s a huge myth that all lesbians do this. Many people find it impractical and unpleasurable.
Orgasm is the end goal. Most people think that sex ends when one or both partners orgasm. This doesn’t have to be the case. Sex can be pleasurable without orgasming, and it’s totally fine to stop having sex without one or both of you orgasming.
You don’t need to worry about STIs or pregnancy. It’s possible to get pregnant if one partner has a penis and another has a vagina. It’s also possible to spread STIs from one person to another, no matter what their genitals are.
Okay, not that we’ve learned a lot about lesbian sex, how about we go to the ‘how do they’. But I’m not going to tell you exactly how for the fact that I am a man. A straight one. What we’re going to be doing is to empathize. Yup, imagine yourself being a woman (oh, you’re wife and girlfriend will totally appreciate what you’re going to learn here). I mean, what better way to understand how they make love to each other, right? So what we’re going to be doing is to set your mind on the preparation and the ‘how to’.
Okay, ready? Imagine yourself a hot woman about to make love to another hot woman (okay, you don’t have to be both hot. You just can be passionate). So let’s go…
First thing’s first…
1. Get familiar with your own anatomy
Masturbating can help you relax and figure out what feels good to you.
You may find that touching yourself in certain places and with certain motions feels pleasurable. This can help you tell your partner what you enjoy.
Masturbating will also help you navigate their anatomy better. It may also give you a good idea of what they might enjoy.
That said, remember that everyone is different. What might be pleasurable for one person might not be pleasurable for the next.
2. Communication is the key
Be prepared to communicate with your partner. Asking for consent is crucial. Even if your partner has already said that they want to have sex, it’s important to check in before the time comes.
Remember that they have the right to withdraw consent during sex, as do you.
If you’re nervous, talk to your partner about it. Share hat you haven’t done certain sexual activities. Ask them what they enjoy doing or what they’d like to try, or share ideas of your own. Oh, and you should never make assumptions about what your partner does or doesn’t want.
Always check in with them and ask what they’d like before taking it to the next level.
3. What to expect from breast and nipple play
Remember that some people have sensitive nipples, so be gentle and ask your partner how much pressure they’d like you to apply.
- Breast and nipple play could include:
- rubbing nipples between your forefingers
- gently pulling nipples
- licking, sucking, or kissing nipples or breasts
- using sex toys on nipples, such as nipple clamps, or using a vibrator or feather tickler on nipples
- using ice blocks or tingling lube on nipples to produce interesting sensations
After that, on to the next… Oh, but you this already. So this is not for you but for your girlfriend or wife if ever she agrees on a sexual adventure and nods to a g/g/b threesome. Hey, you know you want her to foreplay with the other girl.
- rubbing their clitoris by trying circular and up-down motions at various speeds and pressures
- using a finger to find their G-spot, a rough patch of tissue in the vaginal wall
- lightly touching the area around their clitoris or vagina in a teasing motion
- touching the skin just outside of their anus (Yup, the anus).
- penetrating their anus with your fingers
Okay, so more about the anus. You see, women enjoy backdoor play if done by someone as sensual and delicate as her.
So woman, if you’re going to have anal sex, you need a little more preparation. The anus doesn’t produce its own natural lubrication, so using lube is very important.
Go gently, as the lining of the anus walls is thinner than that of the vagina.
And now we move on to the positions… Here are the best 5 girl on girl positions. There are actually more (with variations) but we’ll get to that win another article
1. The L
How to do it: One partner lays down, while the other places their knees on either side of their face such that their vulva is positioned over the other partner’s mouth and they are facing away from the horizontal partner’s body. The horizontal partner then uses their tongue to massage the seated partner’s clitoris.
Why it works: As opposed to a traditional oral sex position, The L allows the seated partner the autonomy to choose the pressure and pacing they desire, using their body to thrust at the amount of speed and roughness they desire. This position also gives the horizontal partner access to the other partner’s body, by simply reaching their hands upwards to explore her stomach, hips, and breasts.
2. Spooning
How to do it: Lay down next to each other in the spooning position. The big spoon will wrap their leg over the little spoon, and use their hand to stimulate the clitoris. If your partner is the big spoon, they can also scoot their arm under your top leg and touch you from behind.
Why it works: When you’re the little spoon, there’s not much for you to do but lay back and enjoy the attention. You can focus fully on how amazing everything feels.
Variations to try: This position is all about finding the most enjoyable angle for you and the easiest reach for your partner. If you’re of differing heights, you may need to reposition to help them reach, she says, possibly by bending forward at the hip. You can also try turning partially onto your back or stomach.
3. The Eagle
How to do it: This position involves one partner lying on their back with their legs outstretched in the air. Your partner will then lie in between your legs, align their clitoris with yours, and rub away.
Why it works: The Eagle is a great way to stimulate both your clitorises. There’s also potential for some really great eye contact.
Variations to try: If you’re on a bed, you can prop yourself up on some pillows. You can also rest one leg on your partner’s shoulder, for a slightly different angle.
4. Kneeling Reach-Around
How to do it: Both of you will get on your knees. Your partner will then kneel behind you, with their body pressed against yours. They’ll reach around your waist and finger your clitoris or use a vibrator on it.
Why it works: This position most closely imitates the angle you probably use when you masturbate, so it’s bound to feel great. It can be very passionate and intense.
Variations to try: Try doing it up against a wall, with both of your hands bracing it for leverage, or up against a sofa, with your arms resting on the cushions. If you’re into kink, they can also tie your hands behind your back.
5. Doggy Style
How to do it: One partner should position themselves on all fours while the other is behind them, upright on their knees. Like straight doggy. The upright partner uses one hand to vaginally penetrate the other partner and reaches their other hand on that partner’s thigh to massage the clitoris.
Why it works: This combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation stimulates the clitoris from multiple angles — both internally and externally. Plus, the person in the back gets a really great view.
Variations to try: If you like, you can try using a strap-on in this position, or use a vibrator to increase sensation.
So there you have it, folks! Ladies, give your man (if you would be willing) the time of his life with an absolute sight to see. You can all enjoy a threesome after. Guys, remember not to put too much pressure on your woman to do this.