This one is for the ladies. Okay, so maybe to some guys too. But if you’re straight and your lady doesn’t read here, well… have her read this one. We’re pretty sure you will both benefit from this. Oh, and this isn’t just the normal dick sucking like what you see in porn. Here we’re going to put in passion and make it quite a memorable (if not addictive) experience for you. Yup, because there is a massive difference between giving your man oral sex and just plain sucking his dick. Oral sex is certainly a sensual and enjoyable experience for your man while sucking his cock is a more intense, erotic, inhibition-free, animalistic act (which we will also discuss by the end as this one is also super enjoyable).
So relax, read, and absorb. Bookmark this if you must. Oh, and this is in response to our pussy eating and more pussy eating.
1. The Conditioning
a. Communication
I can’t stress enough how important this is. Discussing likes and dislikes, exploring new territory, and chatting about what you want and not and how far each of you would go. It’s important for both of you to know what you’re okay with while getting down n’ dirty. Do this. Often. Not just with fellatio or cunnilingus but with everything.
b. The Teasing
Build the heat, you should. Be creative. Do this by giving big kisses and gently grazing your hand over his junk or just staring long at his crotch and then biting or licking your lips. Email or text him about how you can’t stop thinking about his cock and that you can’t wait to suck it.
c. The Play
Again be creative. Take a shower together or just take the initiative do dress your man down (you can do it in the living room, dining, or even the garage as long as there’s no one there). Be a little dominant, too, woman. Men love it.
2. The Techniques
There are a lot really. But we’re going to focus on the ones that need better description and explanation.
a. The Lickety Lick
Licking a powerful blow job technique for starting your blow job. It serves as a sort of oral sex foreplay that will build sexual tension and have him begging you to take him in your mouth… which is exactly what you want.
Licking is also super easy. All you need to do is just hold his penis in your hands and use your tongue to lick it. Now, there are a bunch of other licking techniques that you can use like…
The Tip – The top part or glans of your man’s penis is the most sensitive part (and you know it), specifically the underside of his glans, but if your man is circumcised then it will be slightly less sensitive. Try focusing on licking the tip using the least amount of pressure possible. You can even try doing this for your entire blow job until he comes. More on this here.
Using the Topside of your Tongue – The top side of your tongue provides the most stimulation thanks to your taste buds. Oh, and don’t forget to put a little pressure on the tip when exploring under his glans.
Ball Play – Balls are as sensitive as the penis, and for some guys, even more so. You can simply lick them, caress them, fondle them while licking him. Just don’t squeeze them.
Anilingus – There are two other excellent locations besides his penis and balls that can massively add to his pleasure and make him see you as an oral sex goddess even if they are not strictly part of a regular BJ. His perineum or perineal raphe, the rough patch of skin located just behind his balls as well as his anus contain a lot of nerve endings. Tonguing these areas, up and down or in a circular motion is an awesome way to stimulate them. This technique is called anilingus. It’s a personal preference though as some like it, some don’t. It all depends on your man, really or how much alcohol he has had.
When doing these techniques, remember to produce as much saliva as possible. If you are having trouble producing enough, then you may want to try using a good edible lube as well. Always remember that wetter is better.
b. All Tip
There are a number of different techniques you can use to pleasure the tip of his penis. Now, we’re talking only about the tip here.
Kissing – Kissing the tip of his penis is a fabulous technique to start off your blow job and draw out the length of it Kissing his penis and balls is easy, just think back to how you kiss him normally (on the lips)…
Here’s a detailed step by step process that you should follow.
-Purse your lips together and give him small “pecks”.
-Open your lips slightly so that you can gently squeeze the tip of his penis between them.
-With saliva on your lips, gently run them over his penis.
-Use your lips to gently suck on the top of his penis.
c. The Twister – Using your tongue and lots of saliva (or edible lube), you can perform an ultra-pleasurable and satisfying blow job technique I like to call the Twister. While holding his penis steady in one or both hands, start making a slow circular motion with your tongue around the top of his penis. You can alternate direction and speed to add some variety, but this blissful blow job technique alone is enough to give him a thrilling blow job from start to finish.
d. Deep Throat – I’m pretty sure you’re very much familiar with this (who doesn’t). You see, deep throating your man, is more advanced blow job technique, but when done right, it can deeply gratify and sexually satisfy your man. This extra pleasure is thanks to the back of your throat. As you take him deep into your mouth, eventually your tonsils and the back of your throat will come into contact with the tip of his penis.
The slight spasming of your throat (thanks to your gag reflex) will make it more enjoyable and stimulating for your man, along with the fact that the rest of your mouth and tongue will be stimulating the shaft of his dick.
e. Slip Inside – A less advanced fellatio technique that is almost as effective at providing him with intense delight and stimulation as deep throating him is using the inside of your mouth. By taking him into your mouth and pressing/rubbing the tip of his penis against the inside of your cheek and tongue, you have another tool for your blow job arsenal.
f. Fingers & Hands – Using your fingers and hands is not necessarily a blow job technique. However, using them is a great way to give your mouth and jaw a break. With plenty of saliva or lube, try gently running your fingers over and back the top of his penis and listen as he uncontrollably groans in pleasure. Oh, and this goes with the suck and spit technique. Yup, you heard that right. Spit saliva or lube onto the tip of his penis while giving him a handjob (alternating with the blowjob).
g. The Up & Down – To perform the Up & Down, you simply need to take your man’s penis into your mouth and make a tight “O” shape with your mouth around his penis. This “O” shape means that you can apply pressure around his entire penis.
Next, you are simply going to bob your head up and down, taking his penis in and out of your mouth. Bobbing your head up and down is quite simple, especially if you just concentrate on the top inch or two of his penis. As you get comfortable with this, try taking him deeper and deeper with each stroke so that you can stimulate more and more of his penis.
3. The Positions
You need to have the right mindset, the right blow job techniques as well as knowing some great blow job positions to use on your man if you want to make it a good one. Yup, just like intercourse, positions are also vital when it comes to oral sex. Let’s start with the easiest and then proceed to the more advanced.
a. The Basic
These are the 3 easiest to perform blowjob positions. They are easy to perform because they give you a huge amount of control over the blowjob. So you never have to worry about accidentally taking your man’s penis too deep into your mouth and coughing/choking on it. They also don’t require any crazy acrobatics or super flexibility.
If you have very little experience with giving your man a blowjob or you have an overactive gag reflex, then I highly suggest that you first start by learning and using these 3 blow job positions.
Kneeling Position – The Kneeling Blowjob position is what would consider the ‘standard’ position giving a blowjob (when he is standing up). To perform the Kneeling Blow Job position on your man, you simply need to face him and then get down on your knees while your man remains standing upright. Oh, you can do squats if this one hurts your knees. And yes, go get knee protection like a mat or something.
Boss’ Chair Position – The Boss’ Chair blowjob position gets its name from the fact that your man will feel ‘like a boss’ when you are giving him fellatio. Oh, yeah and also from the fact that your man will be sitting down when you are giving him oral sex. This is good if you’re roleplaying like, you’re a secretary and he’s the CEO and you’re hiding under his desk. Or you’re Ms. Lewinsky and he is… You know.
Regular Position – Performing the Regular Position is easy. Your man needs to lie down on his back with his legs open. You then need to lie down on your stomach on the bed below your man with your head by your man’s crotch. With this, you can do a lot of variations like the blindfolded (or lights off) one or with your hands (tied or not) on the man’s tummy. A lot, I’m telling you.
b. Intermediate Positions
If you’ve tried and is comfortable with the basic ones then you should try out some of these intermediate positions. Each of these positions will give your man a little more control over how deep you can go. A little warning though, if your throat is sensitive, I suggest you be more careful.
Cinema Position Position – Performing the Cinema position involves both partners sitting side-by-side as they would in a cinema. You then just need to undo your man’s fly and lean over while remaining seated by his side. That’s it. By the way, you don’t necessarily need to perform the Cinema position in a movie theater. Though it would add thrill if you do. You can do it on the sofa or in the car (as a variation). Anywhere comfortable.
Thigh Pillow Position – Now this one will make drive him wild. You see, to perform the Thigh Pillow position, you will literally be using his thigh as a pillow. Your man needs to be lying down on his side with his lower leg in front of his upper leg. Yup, like the Burt Reynolds pose. You then need to rest your head on his thigh while also lying down on your side. Then you just take his cock into your mouth and start giving him a blowjob as you normally would.
The Doctor Position – This position gets its name from the fact that your man will be reclining on a sofa just like he would be in a shrink session. To get into position, your man will need to lie down on a sofa on his back and put some pillows under his head so that he can get comfortable. Your bed also works perfectly for this. Next, you need to get down on your knees as you would when you’re in the Kneeling bj position and start giving him a bj as you normally would.
c. The Advanced Positions
Okay, this doesn’t mean that it will give your man more pleasure… But trying these out would totally add up to the thrill and yes, men like that. They like experimenting and a good number of us like it wild. So try these…
Face Fuck Position – You may have experienced this before. Yup, when your man was so engrossed and horny and you were in the ‘meh’ mood. You see, The Face Fuck position is one in which your man will be in a dominant position and will have a lot of control over you, while you will be in a much more submissive position and will need to trust your man. To get into this one, you need to lie down on your back on the bed and put some pillows under your head. Your man will then straddle you on his knees facing you. He will have a knee on either side of your chest, just below your armpits. His penis will be right in front of your mouth.
There is a variation of this one called the Plumber position. The only difference is instead of positioning your man’s knees in your armpits, they would be on your shoulders… Yup, giving you more control than the Face Fuck position.
The Jack Hammer Position – The Jack Hammer blowjob position is similar in many ways to the Pile Driver sex position as your man will be squatting up and down while you are directly below him. Now, to get into this one, you first need to start off by sitting down on a relatively firm surface. Your man will then stand right over you so that he is straddling you and his penis is right above your head. Next, you need to lean your head right back and slowly pull your man’s penis down towards your mouth with your hands. Oh, you’ll be facing the same direction, just to be clear.
The Lie Back Position – You usually see this in porn and to tell you the truth, this one is not for beginners. The Lie Back position is probably one of the most advanced… To get into the Lie Back position, you need to lie down on your bed on your back. You need to position yourself so that your entire body is on the bed, but your head should be hanging over the side of the bed so that you can easily tilt it back and take your man in your mouth.
The one great benefit of this position is that your mouth and throat will be in alignment making it slightly easier to deep throat him without gagging. Your man should be standing on the floor by your head, but he may have to crouch down a bit depending on how high your bed is. He should start by slowly leaning forward while remaining upright so that you can take his penis into your mouth.
4. Spicing It UP
This is the more intense, passion-driven sucking I told you in the intro. With this, your man will take you shopping every week. Heck, he might even buy you a new house given he got good credit. So here… Show your man who’s boss!
a. Initiate
Take the initiative and start blowing him without any prompting from him. Taking the initiative works incredibly well for many reasons. So catch him off his guard. He’ll appreciate it. So here are a few examples of this…
Surprise – Let’s say you’re both sitting at home, watching some TV. When he’s least expecting it, cuddle up beside him and start massaging his crotch with your hand to get him hard, before pulling down his pants and giving him a blow job. Now, if he tries to push you away, pay no attention. No man would turn down a blow job. Just brush off his hands and proceed into taking his cock in your mouth.
Road Head – The next time he is driving you home at night, do the same. Start massaging his testicles through his trousers, before unzipping them and giving him some road head. Just be safe, okay. Or do the deed if you arrive in your driveway.
Morning Wood – Take advantage of it. Wake up earlier and wake him up by sucking on an already throbbing morning erection.
Take Control – The next time you’re both alone and feeling frisky, push him down into a chair, pull his trousers down and start sucking his penis. And yes, do the Boss’ Chair position… But you be the boss.
b. Talk Dirty
Yup, show your animalistic enthusiasm. Tell him how turned on you are and how much you enjoy sucking him. You can call him or message him (the latter is safer, by the way). Entice him always. But don’t overdo it as he might get sacked from his job for lack of focus. Just remember to send him these at least once (or twice) a week…
“I love feeling your cock in my mouth!”
“I want to feel you cum all over my face.”
“The thought of your dick in my mouth makes me so f*cking wet!”
“I miss the throbbing feeling in my mouth when you cum.”
c. Always Finish with These
You know the techniques and the positions. You know how to heat him up a couple of hours before the deed. The only thing lacking is the perfect ending. Now there are a lot really. What I’m going to tell you are just examples. You can always mix and match or be more creative. Yup, the possibilities are endless… Just remember to not finish each fellatio session like Game of Thrones.
Swallowing Like a Boss – Swallow your man’s load when he ejaculates. But to make it more intense for him, try swallowing it like you haven’t had a drop of water for days. The moment he climaxes and explodes in your mouth, swallow it while still sucking for more. The feeling would send him to 7th heaven.
Lick it off Your Lips – A simpler way to finish him off while making it incredibly hot is to have him cum in your open mouth. Also, you can show him that his cum in your mouth before you swallow. Then lick your lower lip like it’s just an appetizer and you still want more.
The Facial – Letting your husband cum on your face can be incredibly hot for both of you. But you can make it more intense, by having him cum on your face, then collecting it on your fingers and licking your fingers clean.
Rubbing It In – Another super erotic way to finish off your man when sucking his dick is to have him cum on your breasts or stomach and then start rubbing it and massaging it around your breasts and stomach, putting on a show for your husband. You can even use it as lube and start masturbating with it. Totally hot and he would get wood again in say, 10-15 minutes.
So there. There may be a lot that I’ve missed like… Hmmmn, maybe just minor details. But heck, with this I know that you get what it is I’m trying to dish out. Now, read again and wait for your man. Until next time.