And since it’s only a few weeks after Valentine’s and we know that you’ll be wanting to perform back aching acrobatics with your partner, why not go back to the basics. I mean, Valentine’s (the whole February) is love month anyway and it should be loving, gentle, and intimate. Yeah, show that… Stop your devilish perverted self for a while and do something that would bring your souls closer. I mean, nothing beats fucking while gazing into each other’s eyes with your loved one. Stay there, if you know what I mean. And do the Kamasutra the following days if your libido is not satisfied. Chill, man. Give this one to her. Or if you’re a woman, be a damsel and make your man be a noble night in shining armor. Put a little respect for one night.
So yeah, I’m talking about the most conservative way to make love. The missionary. But don’t worry as this won’t be as boring as that first time you popped a cherry. What I’m going to show you are the variations that you may want to apply after a few in and out slides. Now, let’s get to it…
This position, ladies and gents, is one of the most common and enjoyable sex positions. Really. And this guide is going to show you how to perform the Missionary position for maximum pleasure along with teaching you some awesome variations to get the most out of it. But before we get to the variations, how about we tell you what you can do while you’re at it.
Him
Now, listen you guys. the Missionary position is very straightforward and doesn’t require much agility or flexibility at all, so it’s suitable for practically everyone. You will be doing most of the work during this, and you simply need to thrust in and out of your vagina.
While this is pleasurable for you, you will find that it’s even more pleasurable (for the both of you) if you grind on your woman at the same time. To do this, you need to move your pelvis up and down or in a circular motion along with thrusting so that your pubic bone can apply pressure onto and around her clitoris, which makes it very similar to the Coital Alignment Technique.
Her
When you are having sex in the Missionary position with your man, you may feel that because he is on top, that he’s the one in control. But you also have a great degree of control over how deep he penetrates you along with how much stimulation your clitoris gets.
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When your man is on top of you, you can wrap your arms around his neck or head. Alternatively, you can ‘hook’ your arms underneath his arms and grab his back so that you can pull yourself down onto his penis for slightly deeper penetration.
a) Help him by stimulating your clitoris – If you want him to stimulate your clitoris more than he already is, then all you need to do is grind it against his pubic bone on every thrust. It will take a little while to get your rhythm, but once you do, it feels amazing! Of course, you can also do some manual stimulation with your hands using these techniques.
b) Make him go deeper – To get him to penetrate you deeper when having Missionary sex is easy. All you need to do is lift your legs up. Keeping them raised in the air can get tiring, so your best bet is to wrap them around your partner’s back like you would do in the Drill position.
If you don’t like wrapping your legs around your man, but still long for deeper penetration, then you can put a pillow or cushion under the small of your back/hips area. This will elevate your vagina and allow him to penetrate you more deeply without you having to raise your legs.
Okay, now that you know your responsibilities, let’s proceed to the awesome variations…
1. Reach for the Starts
Ladies, lie on your back and raise your arms to grab hold of your bed’s headboard or any kind of immovable surface. Ensure that you’re holding on tight enough, so that you don’t move along with your partner’s thrusts. Once your partner has entered you, bring your thighs close together as tightly as possible, which will make his penis rub against your labia with every single thrust, and giving you excellent clitoral stimulation. By not moving along with his thrusts, you’re creating more friction, and this combined with your closed thighs, will allow him to penetrate deeper.
2. The Dirty Dangle
Girls, having your partner stand and enter you can sometimes ease off some of the depth of penetration, should you be in a “my-cervix-needs-a-break” kind of mood. Plus, this one is ideal for doin’ it in the kitchen.
3. The Pancake
Guys, With her ready for regular missionary, ask her to lift her knees up toward her chin. Then, position her calves onto your shoulders so she is totally comfortable and steady while you enter her. The best part of this variation is the extra body contact, which you wouldn’t achieve with the standard missionary…
Any flat surface is good for this—a table, a bed, your kitchen counter, literally anything. Lie faceup, and bring your knees as close to your chin as possible. Your partner will lie on top of you, and hoist your legs over his shoulders. This position really opens you up to your partner, letting him get really deep. For couples that love a lot of touching, this position is great since your faces are so close, you can indulge in some soft kisses and nibbling as well.
4. The Purring Kitten
In CAT (aka Coital Alignment Technique), he shifts a bit so that his hips are higher than yours. Once he’s inside you, have him lift his hips and grind his pubic bone against your clit. He can circle his hips, rub up and down, or go side-to-side — whatever feels right. Super sexy and intimate, great for long, passionate kisses, and your best shot for having a hands-free orgasm.
5. The Lock and Load
When you press your legs together in missionary, suddenly every stroke is enhanced. Seriously, it’s like MSG for sex (And if your man’s on the smaller size in the penile region, this is definitely the position for you — he’ll feel like he’s filling you up and won’t slip out). This position is also good for the super lazy among us because you can take control without moving: Roll your hips around slowly and you’ll get this amazing slidey friction that will drive you both batshit crazy.
6. Make the Head Spin
Ladies, lie on your back at the foot of your bed and get your partner to enter you. Keep inching slowly towards the edge with each thrust, till your head, shoulders, and arms hang over the side of the bed. The blood will rush to your head, and give you a truly different experience. Just make sure you don’t get too lightheaded because that’s not the kind of experience you want.
7. The SideWinder
This take on missionary is best if your man is (too) generously endowed — he won’t be able to enter you quite as deep. In normal missionary, have him spin about 45 degrees to one side so your bodies form an X and he’s entering you at a sideways angle. From here you get a hot view of his sexy back and ass humping you, and you can tell him just how steamy he looks.
8. Crossed Legs
One of the best variations of the missionary position is really quite simple. She crosses her legs. Think of all the added stimulation you both get as her legs tighten around you. If she crosses her legs after you enter her, she’ll create a whole lot more friction. As you continue to thrust in and out, the resistance builds and you both end up with an incredibly satisfying climax.
9. Anal Missionary
This can be a great variation on both positions and allow you to angle her pelvis in a way that you are both going to find comfortable. She is on her back in missionary position, except that you are entering the other hole. The goal is to have her completely relaxed. This allows anal sex to feel more intimate because you are still looking into each other’s eyes and kissing, which can also help relax her — which is key when it comes to anal.
10. Stairway to Heaven
Now, this is for the more adventurous ones. Ditch your bed and go outside the bedroom. Ladies, sit on the stairs and ensure your level with your partner. Lean back on your forearms, and spread your legs. Have your partner enter you standing up, with his arms on either side of you. He can lean on his hands for support if he wants, and you can always pull him close while he thrusts. You can do this if you live in a duplex, and you’ve got a set of stairs within the house. Though, if you want to risk it outside, go right ahead!
Now there you have it… Next time, it will be all about doggie, baby!